Welcome to the
Submissive Women Speak
Web Site

Advice and information based on experience in the real world.

Advice and ideas based on S&M pornography or on what some play-party poseur says that you must or must not do.

Help with finding out what your real submissive needs are.

Silly nostrums that tell you what you must feel if you are a real submissive.

Support in facing all of the fears that most submissive women face when they contemplate genuinely giving up some or all power over their lives.

Romantic fantasies about how you don't really have to give up power or about how giving up power is always sweet and easy.

Help with looking for a partner, a dominant man or woman who will love you, whom you can love, and the depth of whose dominant needs reciprocate the depth of your submissive needs.

Silly advice about how to accommodate your submissiveness without actually disturbing your life.

Insight about what to do if you are already involved in a committed relationship with a person who is not a dominant.

Fluffy re-assurance that you can live life as a submissive while maintaining your established relationship by finding an outside "master."

The understanding that a genuine exchange of power based on absolute openness and honesty between you and your dominant partner is the only mandatory element of a successful relationship between dominant and submissive.

Ersatz prescriptions of the seven (or 11 or 29 or 164) "basic slave positions," the ways in which a submissive person "must" treat a dominant person, negotiations, "slave contracts," or "safe words."

The understanding that each submissive woman is an individual, as different from other submissive women as is any person from any other, and that the only element shared by all submissive women is their submissiveness.

The belief that all submissive women are fundamentally like all other submissive women and can be treated successfully in formulaic and stereotyped ways.

The knowledge that each deeply submissive woman, if she would be happy, must find the right dominant partner for her and that that partner must have the desire and the ability to take control of her and to maintain that control.

The nonsensical idea that a submissive woman should want to submit to anyone who calls him- or herself a dominant and that she must submit all by herself: that if she is a "true submissive," she will automatically know what her dominant partner needs and must be able to provide it without intercession by him or her.

Nonfiction: articles, letters, postings, advice, daily-life descriptions, and other works based entirely on experience. Everything here is written by submissive women--or, in a few cases, by dominants--for other submissive women.

Fiction: Stories that are clearly tales, meant to titillate or entertain, not to instruct.

Fiction Posing as Nonfiction: beautiful white fluffy poems about the wonders of submission written by women who've never met a dominant in person, slave-slut-training schools or academies of submission, long lists of rules or points of etiquette that "all" submissives must follow, writeups of play-party experiences or other Scene reports, "true life" articles about fictional top secret European Houses of Domination, the Gorean life style, or other mythic indulgences favored by fantasizers.

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